I got the most compliments on my appearance when I was depressed and lost my appetite. If there was a graph, my not eating exponentially increased the number of positive comments during that period of my life.
Today, one of my 18-20 year old Physical Education students talked about wanting skinny arms. She didn't want to get "bulky."
I mostly just don't want to be depressed. I don't want them to be depressed either.